This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. We have medicine cabinets for common physical injuries like cuts and colds but no toolkits for common psychological injuries such as failure, rejection, guilt, and loss. In his inspirational talk, Guy Winch tells us that “you can’t treat a psychological wound if you don’t know you’re injured”. Guy teaches us a lesson on why it is so important to practice emotional hygiene.

Guy Winch Ph.D. is a psychologist, speaker, and author whose books have been translated into 15 languages. His most recent book, Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries (Hudson Street Press, 2013) examines the surprising ways in which seven common psychological injuries (Rejection, Loneliness, Loss, Guilt, Rumination, Failure, and bouts of Low Self-Esteem) impact our behavior, emotions, cognitive functioning, and physical health, and provides science-based treatments to heal the wounds they inflict.
In both his writing and his talks, Dr. Winch aims to bridge the gap between the science of psychology and its practice in the real world. He is passionate about translating current scientific findings into practical applications people can use to better their psychological health and their relationships. Dr. Winch is a member of the American Psychological Association. He lives and practices in New York City.

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Comments

    • Maria Leshchinskaya
      Maria Leshchinskaya

      How inspiring! Thank you so much for this talk

      about 1 hour ago
    • Julia Helene
      Julia Helene

      Best Ted Talk I have watched in my life. And I have watched quite a lot.
      Thank you very much ! 🙏🏻💞

      about 2 days ago
    • ira095
      ira095

      So how do you achieve that? To have all dogs on the same drive? Need 2d video 😁

      about 3 days ago
    • Alexandria - Waves of Life -
      Alexandria - Waves of Life -

      This was very touching!

      about 7 days ago
    • Layla Hanabi
      Layla Hanabi

      1:50

      about 7 days ago
    • Anne Madden
      Anne Madden

      What a wonderful mindset to have as we interact with our fellow human beings. Very insightful talk-thank you for sharing and uploading. i think the world is ready for this message right now and new approaches to health and education should incorporate this concept into its delivery.

      about 8 days ago
    • Little Flower
      Little Flower

      Thank you!!

      about 10 days ago
    • Victoria Krasteva
      Victoria Krasteva

      So inspiring. So happy the twin brother recovered ❤️

      about 12 days ago
    • Pravin Misra
      Pravin Misra

      This is probably the most important video I have ever seen

      about 13 days ago
    • Untamed Clay
      Untamed Clay

      What a wonderful teacher, beautiful learning experience. Thank you, Dr. Winch. I will share this broadly.

      about 13 days ago
    • chis mircea
      chis mircea

      thank you very much for sharing, you are perfectly right

      about 13 days ago
    • Willow Charrier
      Willow Charrier

      i’ve been going through a hard time and this really helped me. thank you.

      about 14 days ago
    • Mohammad Dorgham
      Mohammad Dorgham

      You are so great Dr. winch

      about 15 days ago
    • Diane R
      Diane R

      Emotional health needs to be equally supported by good nutrition.

      about 15 days ago
    • Diane R
      Diane R

      Force yourself to concentrate on something positive. Force yourself to have a pleasant day.

      about 15 days ago
    • PATRICIA MCGINLY
      PATRICIA MCGINLY

      This is a wonderful talk, life changing! Thank you so much!

      about 15 days ago
    • Terra Fletcher
      Terra Fletcher

      Had to pause after a couple gut punches. I'm glad I listened.

      about 16 days ago
    • Corlene Greenwood
      Corlene Greenwood

      His voice sounds like an AI robot

      about 16 days ago
    • Edna Cohen
      Edna Cohen

      Best ted talk ever

      about 17 days ago
    • Sharon Cullen Art
      Sharon Cullen Art

      Excellent Ted talk. Thank you. I am sharing this one with everyone!

      about 17 days ago
    • Salvador Gonzalez
      Salvador Gonzalez

      Ty very much awesome practice,
      Blessings guys !

      about 18 days ago
    • Mazhar Hind
      Mazhar Hind

      Very good speech! Thank you for these information and raising our awareness to our emotional hygiene

      about 18 days ago
    • Sandra Langøen
      Sandra Langøen

      The world you are describing, is exactly the world I want to live in the rest of my life . I have been saying for more than 30 years that we all belong in this world, but it was obviously just a nice idea. Now (in the age of 74) I feel at last that EVEN I BELONG IN THE WORLD WITH ALL THE OTHERS. Now I will use the rest of my time to help other people understand and feel the same way. I thank you for the video and wish all of us A HAPPY 2020! Just reading through the text before pushing COMMENT, I look out the window and see a beautiful cloud in all the colours of the rainbow. If I knew how, I would have finished here with a SMILEY.

      about 18 days ago
    • Harry ToyShirt
      Harry ToyShirt

      Why do people say "psychological" instead of "psychic"? It's so much easier to say, and the meaning is more accurate. Are psychologists so arrogant that they think the mind is going to be completely defined with their pseudo-science. Even 'psychical' would be better.

      about 18 days ago
    • Elaine R
      Elaine R

      Really good video, made so much sense about loneliness and depression etc. give it a go.

      about 19 days ago
    • Cori
      Cori

      As an only child of a single parent who works a lot here are some ways I combat loneliness when I can't get out of the house:
      1) I watch filmed podcasts or positive youtube content while I do tasks like working out or homework or cleaning
      2) I call my grandma (Grandparents will ALWAYS pick up eventually)
      3) I talk aloud to no one, might sound sad but it helps a lot once you commit to it. Just rant about something, or explain a story you love.
      4) Turn on music and sing along and dance like no ones watching (cuz nobody is lol)
      5) Most importantly, I fight the urge to assume a friend is busy or doesn't feel like talking and text if they want to FaceTime, even if they can't I always feel better knowing I asked and they may at least be able to text. I've even been invited to things this way, you never know until you try!
      6) When my mom does come home from work, I make a point to spend time with her. Even if we're tired and just watching a show silently, the presence of someone you feel comfortable with makes it better than watching a show silently alone.

      about 19 days ago
    • Dana Scully
      Dana Scully In reply to Cori

      wow cori you are amazing!!!! i kinda do things like you do too..i sometimes even talk with myself lol when i need to dump some thoughts off my brain..also anytime i visit my friend i try to make those moments so memorable..if you are socially connected you will never be alone :)

      about 17 days ago
    • Geri Carbajal
      Geri Carbajal

      It’s so important to channel negative energy to positive energy. Loved this TED talk. Thank you for the reminder. It’s like working out, you have to practice it everyday to be effective. Goals for 2020 Positive thinking. It’s good medicine. The best pill a Doctor can prescribe is positive energy. # LoveOutLoud 💗

      about 19 days ago
    • Anita Ekuban
      Anita Ekuban

      Excellent talk. Thanks Doc

      about 19 days ago
    • IamVel
      IamVel

      I wonder what I should do in practice as 'action when I feel loneliness'?

      about 21 day ago
    • Peace Be 2U
      Peace Be 2U In reply to IamVel

      Learn taichi exercise; it will guide you into the realm of peace n contentment during the routine practice. It is an escape tool from your reality into the alternate reality as you re-align your perception into what really bothers you. It helps me a lot. If you are already proficient, share n teach the taichi routine to others, sharing n giving tlc thru teaching will elevate you to higher plane of consciousness that will transcend your painful heartaches, loneliness, etc. You will realize you are not alone and are needed by others.
      ... It works.

      about 18 days ago
    • Margaret Bailey
      Margaret Bailey

      Two things hit home for me; prioritize your mental health and stop ruminating. These have made a huge difference in my life as I continue to practice them. One more thing that relates to failure: remember to fight when you feel yourself giving up on your dreams.

      about 21 day ago